I was sent this from a friend of a friend of a friend. I happen to agree with it and I know it will make livid those who wish this site would just disappear so here ya go!!!!
Deadbeat Parent Bill of NO Rights!
We, the sensible and responsible people of the United States, in an
attempt to ensure that all children receive every possible opportunity
available to them, and to promote positive behavior as examples for
all children, hereby establish some common sense guideline for
non-custodial parents and liberal policy makers within the government
who appear to be confused by the belief that non-custodial parents are
entitled to rights and privileges, and that excuses should be made for
irresponsible people who, in virtually every aspect of their lives
refuse to accept any responsibility for any of their actions. We hold
these truths to be self-evident:
That the rights of children are more important than the rights of
irresponsible non-custodial parents and that non-custodial parents
liberal policy makers require a common sense "Bill of NO Rights."
You do not have the right to start a new family if you are unable to
financially afford the family that you already have. If you did start
a new family, and now argue that paying child support
will hurt you current family, then you need to start making sacrifices
for both of your families. Get another job. Reduce your standard of
living. Stop being selfish and thinking only of yourself.
You do not have a right to an easy life. Non of us has it easy and
responsible people are willing to do whatever is necessary to ensure
that their children have everything that they need-even if it means
working two jobs.
You do not have a right to expect the American taxpayer to provide
your children with free health care or to provide you with educational
programs or job training. That would be nice- but the rest of us have
made sacrifices to obtain insurance for our families and to learn the
skills that are needed to survive in today's world and there is
absolutely no reason why you shouldn't make those sacrifices too.
You do not have a right to a reduction in your child support
obligation just because you exercise your visitation rights. The
emotional well being of your children and your ability to develop a
relationship with your children should be your highest priority in
life and is worth any financial sacrifices that you will have to make.
You do not have the right to happiness. Being an American means that
you have the right to pursue happiness as long as your pursuit of
happiness is not detrimental to others. Your children should not
suffer emotionally or financially because of your pursuit of your own
individual happiness. If they do, then you should be entitled to
absolutely no happiness in your life at all.
You do not have the right to blame your inability to get a job or pay
child support upon your environment; the failure of your own father to
be involved in your life; your race or religion; your lack of
education or anything else that you may dream up. You are the master
of your own destiny and if you can't motivate yourself to learn the
lessons to be successful in life, then you have no right to complain
when the judge sentences you to jail for contempt of court.
You do not have the right to withhold the payment of any portion of
your child support when you have other bills that need paying. Your
children are more important than any other financial obligation that
you may have. The only financial right that you have is the right to
reduce your standard of living so that all of the needs of your
children can be bet. You also have the right to get a second job so
that you can meet all of the obligations that you have created for
You do not have the right to demand visitation rights if you do not
exercise those rights responsibly and fully. If you have not seen or
talked to your children for a number of years, and then demand to see
them now that you are having to pay child support, the rights of the
children to feel secure with you take precedence over any visitation
rights you may believe that you have.
If you have repeatedly failed to visit the children after promising
them that you would. You have no right to insist that when and if you
do show up that you be allowed to exercise the
visitation rights that are contained in the court order.
You do not have the right to complain about the amount of child
support that you are required to pay. When you complain, you are
putting a dollar value on the lives and well being of your children
and demonstrates to everyone that you are self-centered and shallow
and do not have the best interests of your children as your top
priority in life.
You do not have the right to demand that the custodial parent provide
a financial accounting to you for the child support that you are
either paying, have paid or are required to pay. No matter what amount
you are paying or are required to pay, you are getting an exception
value for your expenditures. The amount of support that you are paying
does not come anywhere near the costs of raising a child. The
custodial parent is making far greater financial sacrifices-and
devoting his/her entire life to the children and doing the best that
he/she knows how to.
You do not have the right to have the child support obligation reduced
because you buy school clothes for your children or have the children
for a few weeks during the summer or over the holidays. The costs of
maintaining a home for the children continues whether they are there
You do not have the right to relinquish your parental rights just
because you do not want to pay child support. If you do not have a
relationship with your children, it is solely and 100% your fault. If
you claim that you don't have that relationship because the custodial
parent denied you visitation you are living in a fantasy world.
You do not have the right to complain about the manner in which the
custodial parent is raising the children. If you do not like what is
being done with the children, you do have the right to get involved
and help the custodial parent by spending more time with your
children. If you do not exercise that singular right, then you are
entitled to no other rights at all.
You do not have the right to expect some other man or woman that is
involved in the lives of your children to provide full financial
support for them. That man/woman is not there to replace you, the
biological parent and that person will never be able to take your
place in the lives of your children unless you, by virtue of your own
actions, allow that to happen. If you allow the "step-parent" to
replace you in the lives of your children, then the "step-parent" has
every right in the world to insist that you act responsible for once
in your life and insist-and demand- that you contribute financially to
the well being of your children.
You do not have the right to expect-or to ask-the courts to grant you
leniency when you have failed to pay the child support that has been
ordered. You acted irresponsibly, and as
compensation to the custodial parent who had to make sacrifice after
sacrifice while your were not paying child support, you now should be
required to make sacrifices as well. Life is not a one way street. You
should be held fully and completely accountable for your actions and
are entitled to no considerations or concessions. You are not a victim
of the judicial system-or what it may do to you as a result of your
irresponsible actions. You put yourself in that position. At that
point, you are no different than any other criminal who has
demonstrated that he/she is unable to live by the rules of society.
I should also add that when one parent makes considerably less than the other, then the higher wage earner should not seek out exorbitant amounts of child support just to punish the low wage earner. This generally applies in cases with non-custodial moms dealing with abusive ex-husbands. Listen guys, you make 100,000 a year or more and your ex-wife only makes 15,000 - you can support the child. Don't make her homeless just because "you can."