God has an angel

Farrah Fawcettt died early Thursday and went straight to Heaven. When she arrived she was met (appropriately for an Angel) by God who said due to the good life she had led she could have 1 wish. After some thought, Farrah advised God that her wish was "for all children on earth to be safe." Mysteriously Michael Jackson was dead one hour later.

TWAT Bob on children

Recognize that when an adulterous wife bears the bastard child of another man she has broken her former marriage and formed another marriage. When a husband finds out through DNA testing or otherwise that his wife's child is not his, he may declare the marriage ended by the wife's adultery. In this event he should retain full custody of his children and ownership of all of the community property including rings, jewelry, or other gifts that she was given as his wife. An adulteress with a bastard child should be able to take only her clothing, toiletries, and her bastard(s).

Gotta love this one folks. The chidlren in this scenario are related (even if only through the mother) and TWAT Bob says to seperate the chidlren and make the woman leave with the "bastard" child. The other children are pure I guess and in his mind should not be corrupted by this child.

TWAT BOB YOU ARE OUT THERE!!!!

Oh and I must ask this one TWAT Bob. What if the man is the one to have an adulterous relationship and bears a child out of wedlock? What happens to that child? Is that child also a bastard child as you say the other child is?

Attila wants an accounting.....

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Attila L. Vinczer Says:

May 14th, 2009 at 12:18 am
What would be OK is that we had 50/50 custody of children as a datum. Therefore no CS would need be paid as child rearing expenses would be equal. Nothing to litigate! The savings would be huge! I would also like to see an accounting of ALL the CS funds that are paid usually to the mother who can spend it on what ever she wants...

ACCOUNTING OF CS=MORE CONTROL BY FREAK MAN

Would this be you Attila?

And by the way Attila, child support is nmot only to be used for basic needs such as clothing, foo, and shelter - it is also to provide the child with as close to the lifestyle they had before the parents were divorced. In other words, if the family lilved in BelAir pre-divorce, the child should not be forced to live in a slum post-divorce. If the child was an avid dancer, she should not be forced to quit doing so, simply because freak dad wants mom to account for where every penny goes. And how do you propose she do that if she remarries, and both of thes epeople work? Do you propose the new spouse be forced to divulge information about his finances? When your lovely (NOT!!!!) second wives fight tooth and nail to keep from divulging information about themselves? Ummm yeah okay Attila, I was born but it dam sure weren't yesterday!!!!

Work it out with an abusive man? You have got to be kidding me!!!!

Well just when I thought they might actually have a few brain cells they go and write this:

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terri Says:

May 14th, 2009 at 7:36 pm
The best way to reduce the total national child support debt is to dismantle child support system. Let the two adults work it out themselves.

The government ought to mind their own business, it’s not like anything they run works. Governments tax and spend; they’re not good at managing anything.

Ummmm terri, how do you "compromise" with an abusive man? The answer is.....
YOU DON'T!!!!!!

Now do you have any more SPECIAL words of wisdom for us terri?

Color, race, economic status in crime reports

Wow jeana hit the mail on the head again, I think we need to create some sort of honorary award or something!!!! Read below:

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jeana Says:

May 12th, 2009 at 2:18 pm
I really think this is more about race and socioeconomic status than gender. While there’s more sympathy for dead females than dead males, think about what it would be like if the genders were reversed. Would they care more about a dead Latina immigrant than a white successful businessman? I’m betting not.

I would like to go one step further in this. If you have two white girls missing, one is from a successful family and one is from a family at poverty level (ie: what one would consider a white trash sort of family) chances are great you will hear more about the rich little white girl. Let's take this one step further, if it was a rich little white boy and a poor little white girl, chances are great rich kid/family will get more press. Case in point: Caylee Anthony versus Hayleigh Cummings. There is news nearly every day on Caylee and we know where she is sadly. Not so with Hayleigh, but when was the last time you heard about her? Need I say more?

I would like to add that race and socio-economic status are about equal in the playing field, I really do not know which comes first. Although a poor minority girl who is dead or missing sadly in society's eyes (IE: White Men) is not as important as a rich white girl. I wonder who would be more important, a poor white girl or a rich minority girl? Now that is one to ponder.....

Real Women?

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martin swash Says:

May 10th, 2009 at 3:26 pm
REAL women are on the side of dads, we must not let our terrible unjust experiences blind us from the fact . One day it will women, real women , who will overturn all these destructive family laws that are causing so much misery and anger.

Actually REAL women stand up for injustice no matter the form. We do not just stand there and let you lead us to believe that since we are women, this means we must be stupid and unable to form a cognizant thought. REAL women also stand up for chidlren before standing up for themselves and espoecially before standing up for men - especially those men who have been alleged to be abusive. GOT IT?????

The woman blaming runs rampant over THERE

pjk is not the only one who blames women. Read on for many many more below:

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feelbreeze64 Says:

April 29th, 2009 at 2:59 pm
Spoken like a true victim. Maybe she should of thought twice about who she was having children with, instead of having childern with a man that can't take care of him self but still expecting him to take care of his childern. She is just as at fault as he is for making poor decisions.

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SerenityNow Says:

April 29th, 2009 at 2:58 pm
I was going to say what pjk said- that Ms. McCaffrey chose to have a child with (if we take her words as fact) an irresponsible drug addict, and now cries BOO HOO HOO.

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Offended_Dad Says:

April 29th, 2009 at 3:15 pm
Wow, April, you had not one, but *TWO* children with an alcoholic / drug addict that can't hold down a job. What moment of genius inspired this life decision that affects not only you, but the two children you deliberately created? You aparently take ZERO accountability for your bad decision making, but rather propose that the government force someone to work and confiscate their wages to make up for it....

Imagine if women were branded "lying goldigging tramps" until proven otherwise, and you'll start to understand the point of view.

Editor Note: Offended_Dad - women ARE branded liars, god-diggers, and tramps every single day by abusive men. This is why the women file for divorce in many cases.

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Lonnie Says:

April 29th, 2009 at 10:44 pm
why doesnt she elaborate on her decision to sleep with and have a child with a man who was a drug addict? Or did she drive him to that point lol. Why is it never their fault? Why do they never accept any part of the blame for their decisions? How about taking into consideration that before you spread your legs and get pregnant you think about whether you can afford to raise a child by yourself?? she is a clear loser who wants to pass the blame for her poor decisions.

And my favorite (hack gag puke) comment of the night:

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JeanB Says:

April 29th, 2009 at 11:00 pm
Lonnie,

Because then she would have to admit she is stupid. Heaven forbid anyone takes responsibility for their own actions anymore.

It IS all about the money....... (according to E. Steven Berkimer)

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E. Steven Berkimer Says:

April 29th, 2009 at 2:26 pm
Without the money, many children (and their parent that actually raises them) go without health insurance and regular check-ups. Without the money, children lose out on opportunities for a better education if they can't afford to live in the right neighborhood or pay for private school or pay for tutoring. Without the money, some single parents have to work more than one job and spend less time with their children...

Wellllllll....... If you can't afford to support the child on your own, should you have custody?

Do I need to add anything to this?????

Kudos yet again to Georgia Girl!!! (or Getting it right in PAS cases)

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Georgia Girl Says:

April 25th, 2009 at 9:14 pm
I have no doubt that PAS is a real condition of alienation, but not in the context JeanB speaks. I firmly believe the the girlfriend or boyfriend in a divorced spouse's life has no business trying to intervene with the "children" of that spouse.

It is the spouse's responsibility to negotiate with both his ex-wife and with his children. And in jeanb's case, the father of the children was NOT the one who took the initiative. To me, this kind of generosity coming from the new girlfriend would only serve to aggravate the ex-wife (trying to put myself in the shoes of the ex-wife).

It's curious, also, that in this particular case, the father waited until they were college age before taking "action" to involve himself in his daughters' lives. Something sounds skewed here.

Georgia Girl if you read other comments from jeanb you will see that her boyfriend is what one commonly refers to as a deadbeat dad. They have even taken steps to ensure that the state cannot come after him (putting everything in her name). I wonder if when they file taxes does he file or does he ignore that little law too? You see in MRA world, we must do everything to ensure that little court order called child support is never followed.

Oh and step two in the MRA handbook? Make sure that everyone sees how BADLY the father has been alienated from HIS chidlren. Do not allow anyone to see if the FATHER may have actually done anything to turn the children against him on his own. You see yet again women are all powerful and we control the world (okay who is on drugs now).....

Another for the stepmonster hall of shame

Here we have another woman who is PROUD of all she has done to ensure that her new partner's chidlren will not get the support they deserve. I do not think any commentary is necessary here. Oh and notice the veiled threats made also (Durham might get beat?)

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JeanB Says:

April 27th, 2009 at 2:48 pm
First of all, Durham is putting his life on the line here. Given the volatility of these situations it won’t take long to come across one that is so PO’ed he just beats the hell out of Durham. Not too smart of Durham, I think.

Oh, buddy, I dare Durham to try to hound my BF. I DARE HIM! House is in my name, haha! Sorry, couldn’t resist. Seriously, though, I don’t shake easy, and he doesn’t get shook up, EVER. I almost hope Durham does show up, and he just might since “her” state falsely claims my BF is in arrears. Might be fun.

Polite letter to Lifetime, et al, will be written and sent off for sure.

John M on Blackmail

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John M Says:

April 27th, 2009 at 10:52 am
BTW, what exactly do we know about this Mr. Durham? No man's closet is so clean that it doesn't have a few skeletons in it.

Now the MRA's are behaving normally :-) What fun would we have if we did not stopp to a good ol' fashioned blackmailing or extortion? I can see the headlines now. John M (or insert name here) - Blackmail and Extortion. (Article) It seems dear John is angry about child support. And he wants the world to know it. Lifetime in an effort to show how the system routinely fails chidlren by not being able to receive the child support due them, has run with the show Deadbeat Dads. John, however feels this is an insult to all men as they are NOT deadbeats. Enter the Internet and blackmail/extortion.

Now you, gentle reader may finish the article.....

Women's default rate on child support

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Mister-M Says:

April 27th, 2009 at 7:31 am
Maybe in our letters... we can also point out that as a gender, women TOTALLY DEFAULT on their child support obligations (and partially default) at a significantly greater percentage than do men.

It's almost 2-to-1.

I wonder if they'll be tracking down any deadbeat moms?

Mister-M, again you MRA's are confused....How do women "TOTALLY" default on their child support obligations? This is suggesting that EVERY woman ignores chidl support. A handful of MRA's on a website with sob stories on how they have been wronged by family court do not lead and cannot lead to that assumption. Women default due to lower earning capacities compared to men who have typically been in the workforce longer. Women are typically in and out of the workforce. Men typically work more dangerous jobs, whereas women are your service workers who are "safe" and as such are paid less, which will lead to a higher default rate. Also you have fewer moms who are required to pay child support and as such simple mathematics rule here. You have a group of one million men and a default rate of 10% that is 100,000. If you have a group of mothers required to pay support again it is always smaller so the percentages will be larger even if the amount is smaller. This is also the theory behind why more moms are found to be abusive or neglectful of their children using MRA quoted statistics. Again sheer numbers of women who are responsible for the care of children and the amount of time for each parent in their periods of responsibility will increase these stats.

I know several women who are paid up and ahead in their obligations. I also know many women who are "homeless" due to child support and due to the man lying about his income in order to get more support. I also know many men who default on their support, I know many who are responsible and I know quite a few who fall somewhere in the middle. I know one man who, even when faced with a court order to have the support deducted from his weekly paycheck, the custodial mother is lucky to see a payment once a month. It is only until this woman files court papers that payments start rolling in. I also know this women is doing everything in her power to obtain better employment so she does not have to rely on the child support, this money can in fact be used for extras for the child. This woman in fact has increased her income by more than 4 dollars an hour in the last 3 years. She has bettered her employment so the hours are more suitable for the child and herself, she has bettered her working conditions to a point. She also attends school so she can increase her earning potential which was cut short due to her abusive and controlling spouse, (no wife of mine will work, she needs to serve me - me Tarzan, you Jane). Sadly, the children involved in this family sees the mother's steps to better herself, and they also see the father's continued degridation of the mother. Who do you think will "win" in this situation?

Nobody.....but the mother will no longer have to rely on a man to provide for her.

Oh and Mister-M why don't you share these statistics? I am sure that they can be debuked just as MRA statistics on intimate partner violence (those stats using the Conflict Tactic Scales) have been.

Make up your minds.............PLEASE

So pjk, explain to me if these children are not puppets on a string, then how is it mothers have sooooooooooo much control according to the little cult you follow and are able to turn these supposed puppets into mindless little robots who will only spout - I don't want to see daddy, daddy is mean, daddy hurts me (or my brother, or my sister...)? So which is it pjk?

The DUHnce goes to this one!!

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pjk Says:

March 31st, 2009 at 3:24 pm
re: Um, guys. This is painfully obvious that the parents are at fault here. Any child acting like that does not do so for no reason. She was definitely poorly raised.

...I disagree. It is possible, probably likely, that the parents did absolutely nothing to cause this kind of behavior in the child. Children aren't like puppets on strings - they are under their own control.......

Legally Kidnapped......

Have you committed the crime of giving birth to a male who would eventually grow up to father a child? If so, I wanted to bring your attention to this particular blog post from Glens Cult.

Well LK, the particular grandmother of which I am speaking wants to steal the child away from his or her mother and this infant is only 10 weeks old. This is barely enough time for the child to be bonding with the mother. There is also no mention of whether the mother is breastfeeding the infant. Here is what La Leche League has to say about breastfeeding:

A mother and her baby should breastfeed for as long as they wish to breastfeed. The American Academy of Pediatrics currently (2005) recommends: "Pediatricians and parents should be aware that exclusive breastfeeding is sufficient to support optimal growth and development for approximately the first 6 months of life and provides continuing protection against diarrhea and respiratory tract infection. Breastfeeding should be continued for at least the first year of life and beyond for as long as mutually desired by mother and child." * As solids are introduced, usually around the middle of the first year, your baby will shift his primary source of nutrition from your milk to other foods.

All the benefits of human milk—including nutritional and health—continue for as long as your baby receives your milk. In fact, as your baby takes less human milk, these advantages are condensed into what milk is produced. Many of the health benefits of human milk are dose related, that is, the longer the baby receives human milk, the greater are the benefits.
http://www.llli.org/FAQ/bflength.html

They also have this to say about breastfeeding and visits away:

Breastfeeding is an important parenting and health choice for mothers and babies. But when parents separate or divorce, conflicts may arise between the mother's desire to continue breastfeeding and the father's plans for visitation. However, breastfeeding can be protected in family law cases without sacrificing the father's bond with his children. Babies need the love of both their parents, and it should be unnecessary for the courts to pick one relationship over the other, when both are so important.

http://www.llli.org/Law/LawVisitation.html

So as you can see LK, forcing long periods of visitation/parenting time on a brand new baby who could possibly be breastfeeding is not a good idea. Yes the father should be allowed to bond with this child as (providing he is NOT ABUSIVE), but for this paternal grandmother to suggest she wants full custody of this child (in other words she wants to remove the child from his or her mother) is NOT right!!!!

I guess your blog - Legally Kidnapped - is not a misnomer after all, you truly do want to help people legally kidnap children.

Grandmother wants to STEAL a 10 week old baby from the mother

My son is ther father of a 10 week old baby girl. We filed a petition to establish paternity . She had until 2/23 to respond to the papers served to her on 1/29. On 3/9 our attorney filed for a default hearing. On 3/9 their attorney filed a response of denial. After speaking the attorneys agreed that both parties should get together and resolve this out of court. My son is asking for standard Texas visitation with overnight visits. He still lives at home while attending technical college and would not even be alone with the child. The mother also lives at home with her mother, her two brothers, her gransparents and three cousins. Baby makes 10 in the house but I have been told that dosen't matter. The baby sleeps in a crib in the living room. This is also the room the mother and her mother sleep in in the same bed. I worry about her crib being under a window. We have a much safter environment for her but do not want to take her away from her mom. WE just want the time he deserves. The meeting that was going to take place this week never happened. Their attorney never retunred the calls from ours.My son is sending child support weekly and has not seen his daughter since she was 12 days old and that visit was for about 5 minutes tunil the mother told he he had no rights to the baby. Our attorney says next step if they will not talk is to file for a temp order. That could take up to 20 days. My son is distraught about missing so much of his daughters early life. WE don't even know if she is growing okay. Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas that could help us?

I have only one suggestion for you Grandma from HELL.....GET OUT OF YOUR SON'S LIFE!!!!! You had your time at being a mother, leave being a mother to (drumroll folks) THE MOTHER!!!!

JeanB - pay attention please.... Oh I forgot you belong over there you can't....

Wow. The "Mother and Father" added to "Father Only" is still less than the "Mother Only." So, how do they figure it is usually the father who hurts or murders these children?

This study does not account for time spent by each abuser with the child. In mother abuse cases, the mother typically spends more time with the child. In father abuse cases this is not true. If we factor in the time spent by each perpetrator with the child and accounted for that in these figures, you would see the father abuse percentages skyrocket. Just simple math, not rocket science... Do you understand now?

Guess not you will still spout the tired old statistics, and all the supposed bad stories on men, the dead broke stories, the lies, the propaganda that MEN have created. So go back to your little commune.

Orlando to have new program to assist in determining lethality in DV situations

Questionnaire helps Orlando police break spiral of domestic abuse

Now this is one SMALL step in the right direction. Also notice that there are 52 comments as of 4:00PM EST February 24, 2009.

Some of the comments while possibly an attempmt at humor are nonetheless so very true. Men who attempt to control their wives through the use of violence are then left windering why she then tires of the assaults and uses that information in her divorce of him. One poster on this site sums it up while humorously, in terms we can all understand:

honeypot
Springfield, VA
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|Report Abuse |#20 Wednesday Feb 11
Amen to Orlando for taking a Pro-Active approach to domestic violence. Years ago I was the victim of a violent stalker and there were no laws to protect. LE's hands were tied until a crime was committed. If this new technique can thwart even one assault, there is value. Prevention is a large part of the cure and it doesn't cost the taxpayers anything for the cops to ask questions.

And a note to the poster who believes women use Domestic Violence to prosper in divorce proceedings. B/S. Women use MEN to prosper in divorce proceedings. For some, that's what marriage is for. Don't like it; don't marry -- it's a fools' investment.

One can only hope that surrounding cities and counties in Florida will step up to the plate as OPD and Orlando has done.

You must be wondering why all the videos

I am posting all these videos to show what a pervasive problem domestic abuse truly is. In ALL of these videos (and there are many, many more available) the male is the perpetrator of domestic violence. This is because in nearly all cases of abuse, the male is the violence perp. He does the damage, he inflicts the most harm. Abuse is pervasive, secret, hidden. We must all work to end this crime. And whether the abuser uses his fists, a weapon, or his mouth to inflict the pain, we must all stop this crime.

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