Which way shall I go my Dahlins?

Now Whortie is at such a loss my sweet nibblins. Petunia my dear fabulous cuz has pretty much given me carte blanche to run with this in any way I choose. I have pondered this for many days and nights wondering to myself, self whatever shall I do? I want to create my own space and Petunia the dear has built up quite a following. Whatever can I do to increase that following. I could never do her justice by doing the exact same thing. Only my darlin Mz P can pull that off. So what shall I do with this simply mahvelous gift?

Last night while getting my weekly mani and pedi I had a simply exciting flashbulb moment darlins! I will give those victims a voice. I will share their stories and give them a voice. So I will go to Dastardly Dads as much as it terrifies me, I simply abhor violence of any sort, Whortie is such a lover of all things large and small you see. I will find these victims and give them a voice. I will try to show what their last moments must have been like seeing these monster daddies engaging in the ultimate act of revenge against their mommies, the mommies who miss and love them.

Criticism of Dowd's recent op-ed piece

Apparently Dowd has written a piece which can be found HERE concerning a fantasy sex game which was dreamed up by some school aged children. Now to say these are children would be correct if we were to look at their actual "age", but any child who has thoughts of victimizing another child or adult, should be treated as an adult. Apparently these "boys" (thought pops into my head - boys will be boys - where have we heard that one before?) thought this game would be cool. Well it was discovered before any girls could be made into unwilling or unknown participants (THANKFULLY).

I guess that is not good enough for HIM though as he must belittle Dowd and MINIMIZE this "act" of these "boys". But does he finish with just that little piece?

OH NO!!!! He must go on to criticize beauty pageants (which have financed many college degrees) and a dance competition video which went viral. Now why is it okay for these "boys" and it can be "explained" when they attempt to sexually assault a female, yet for girls who enjoy an activity (because pageants and dance are activities) it is considered sexualization? Now before I could write about this, I had to do my research. I did find a very recent Miss America pageant winner who did compete in child beauty pageants. Xxxxx Xxxxxx, winner of Miss America in #### competed in child beauty pageants, just a few years before Jon Benet competed. Now is HE going to say that Miss Xxxxxx has issues? Was she sexualized as a child? Or did she simply do something she wanted to do and have her parents support her 100% in that endeavor? Hmmmmmm, you be the judge.

Well Mister what have you to say for yourself now? A very well-adjusted adult woman competed in child beauty pageants and she did not turn out sexualized. She turned out pretty darn great if you ask me.

Letter to the Editor: 'What I know is best for our family has no sympathy in the court system.'

Letter to the Editor: 'What I know is best for our family has no sympathy in the court system.'

This letter is in response to "No Contact Orders Expand State Power, Split Up Families."

I am in a situation exactly like this, my 3 boys are not allowed to be around their father because of a no contact bond for an incident that took place in 9/2009. NO one cares what happens to my family even after a letter written by DFACS that it was unhealthy for our children to be away from my husband, but the DA doesn't care about that or my opinion. I am not a victim of DV and never will be, but what I know is best for our family has no sympathy in the court system. Is this what I pay my taxes for? To be treated like this...I guess so!

- Melinda, Monroe, Georgia

Well.....................

This letter is in response to "No Contact Orders Expand State Power, Split Up Families."

I am in a situation exactly like this, my 3 children are are forced into contact with their father because of shared parenting laws. No one cares what happens to my family even after a letter written by DCF that it was unhealthy for our children to be near my husband, but the DA doesn't care about that or my opinion. I am a victim of DV and always will be as long as these travesties are ignored, but what I know is best for our family has no sympathy in the court system. Is this what I pay my taxes for? To be treated like this...I guess so!

- Jane, Miami, Florida

Just received this letter and the heads up from Jane with link at top to article :-) And I wonder which one is closer to fact?

A loving father?

I always believed that being "allowed" supervised visits is an abomination and amounts to a consolation prize, when prior to talk of a divorce, there was no concern about a non-custodial's ability to care for his child.
My kid was taken from me in New York. the judge tried that shit on me. That is to offer me a consolation prize. I declined, because I knew I would be no more than an out-of-state visitor and would have to fight each time to see the kid which up to that point, they refused to allow me to do. I would essentially be a baby sitter for the bitch, which I wasn't about to do, either. I would constantly be paying sharks to go to the court to ask for a little time with the kid. Not for me. I wasn't about to lose another dime in time or "shark" fees to get me something that should have been mine to begin with - a right to my kid.
It was heartwrenching to me - I felt like offing myself. But I eventually got over it. I haven't seen the kid since he was 2 1/2 y/o. Now he's almost 18. I understand he was recently trying to contact me, but I know for a fact it was only for more money. He, or I should say she gets $380.00/week from me. That's the extent of my involvement. If he wanted my involvement, he would have called me a long time ago and that didn't happen.

I ask you - are these the words of a loving father? Well apparently EFRMHP or ehosppharm@cxaxtxr.nxt seems to think so.

Father/Daughter Batman? or would it be Batman and Batkid? Calling Quentie......

Now what kind of man (father) would expose his child in this fashion? Well maybe fashion is not that proper of a choice of word?

Can you explain Quentie????????

Don't these men understand that you can't abuse a woman without abusing her children?

Don't these men understand that you can't abuse a woman without abusing her children?

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God has an angel

Farrah Fawcettt died early Thursday and went straight to Heaven. When she arrived she was met (appropriately for an Angel) by God who said due to the good life she had led she could have 1 wish. After some thought, Farrah advised God that her wish was "for all children on earth to be safe." Mysteriously Michael Jackson was dead one hour later.

Occasional dad doing wrong?

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Nick S Says:

June 9th, 2009 at 10:29 am
" Not long ago, a deranged Melbourne man threw his daughter off a bridge, killing her. Anti-father activists immediately seized on the tragedy to claim that the shared parenting law places children in the nefarious clutches of brutal dads."

Because the odd father is a psycho, this means that most fathers should have less contact with their children. It makes perfect sense to me. I can't see what the problem is.

Nick, Nick, Nick......

You must be under a rock or something dude....Do you not read the papers or watch tv news? Hundreds of thousands of stories of bad dads - dads killing the whole family and then themselves, dads abusing kids, dads abusing moms, dads comitting many many wrongs. Close your bb (bad breath) mouth, read a paper or watch some tv news, and then brush those stank teeth and then you can speak.

Not to be nasty or anything ya kno dude, but dang think before you speak. You might ctually appear intelligent.

Apples and Oranges here frankfurt

It'll be interesting to compare this case with the strikingly similar case of Arthur Freeman in Australia. Freeman, who was plainly having mental difficulties at the time, threw his daughter Darcey off a bridge in Melbourne, killing her. That tragedy was immediately seized on by anti-father advocates to attempt to repeal amendments to the Family Law Act that promote equally shared parenting. The theory seemed to be that, because Arthur Freeman apparently was, all fathers are dangerous to their children.

I wonder if the Stott-Smith logic will be used in this country to argue against mothers having equal parenting arrangements with fathers. Why do I doubt it?

First and foremost before I forget lets give the obligatory link for Fair Use Protection (I do not recommend visiting however). http://glennsacks.com/blog/?p=3780 There's your link guys :-)

Freeman had equal rights to his children despite several allegations of abuse. The facts are not all in on this case so don't be counting anything just quite yet. What this woman did was incomprehensible and EXTREMELY wrong - I want to clarify my position on that before some raving loon FR/MRA says I am supporting her.

And while I am at it, I wonder why in all these posts about all these bad moms (oh and there are literally thousands of them if you listen to these loons) why do they never mention an FR going off unless it is to give sympathy?

Color, race, economic status in crime reports

Wow jeana hit the mail on the head again, I think we need to create some sort of honorary award or something!!!! Read below:

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jeana Says:

May 12th, 2009 at 2:18 pm
I really think this is more about race and socioeconomic status than gender. While there’s more sympathy for dead females than dead males, think about what it would be like if the genders were reversed. Would they care more about a dead Latina immigrant than a white successful businessman? I’m betting not.

I would like to go one step further in this. If you have two white girls missing, one is from a successful family and one is from a family at poverty level (ie: what one would consider a white trash sort of family) chances are great you will hear more about the rich little white girl. Let's take this one step further, if it was a rich little white boy and a poor little white girl, chances are great rich kid/family will get more press. Case in point: Caylee Anthony versus Hayleigh Cummings. There is news nearly every day on Caylee and we know where she is sadly. Not so with Hayleigh, but when was the last time you heard about her? Need I say more?

I would like to add that race and socio-economic status are about equal in the playing field, I really do not know which comes first. Although a poor minority girl who is dead or missing sadly in society's eyes (IE: White Men) is not as important as a rich white girl. I wonder who would be more important, a poor white girl or a rich minority girl? Now that is one to ponder.....

Legally Kidnapped......

Have you committed the crime of giving birth to a male who would eventually grow up to father a child? If so, I wanted to bring your attention to this particular blog post from Glens Cult.

Well LK, the particular grandmother of which I am speaking wants to steal the child away from his or her mother and this infant is only 10 weeks old. This is barely enough time for the child to be bonding with the mother. There is also no mention of whether the mother is breastfeeding the infant. Here is what La Leche League has to say about breastfeeding:

A mother and her baby should breastfeed for as long as they wish to breastfeed. The American Academy of Pediatrics currently (2005) recommends: "Pediatricians and parents should be aware that exclusive breastfeeding is sufficient to support optimal growth and development for approximately the first 6 months of life and provides continuing protection against diarrhea and respiratory tract infection. Breastfeeding should be continued for at least the first year of life and beyond for as long as mutually desired by mother and child." * As solids are introduced, usually around the middle of the first year, your baby will shift his primary source of nutrition from your milk to other foods.

All the benefits of human milk—including nutritional and health—continue for as long as your baby receives your milk. In fact, as your baby takes less human milk, these advantages are condensed into what milk is produced. Many of the health benefits of human milk are dose related, that is, the longer the baby receives human milk, the greater are the benefits.
http://www.llli.org/FAQ/bflength.html

They also have this to say about breastfeeding and visits away:

Breastfeeding is an important parenting and health choice for mothers and babies. But when parents separate or divorce, conflicts may arise between the mother's desire to continue breastfeeding and the father's plans for visitation. However, breastfeeding can be protected in family law cases without sacrificing the father's bond with his children. Babies need the love of both their parents, and it should be unnecessary for the courts to pick one relationship over the other, when both are so important.

http://www.llli.org/Law/LawVisitation.html

So as you can see LK, forcing long periods of visitation/parenting time on a brand new baby who could possibly be breastfeeding is not a good idea. Yes the father should be allowed to bond with this child as (providing he is NOT ABUSIVE), but for this paternal grandmother to suggest she wants full custody of this child (in other words she wants to remove the child from his or her mother) is NOT right!!!!

I guess your blog - Legally Kidnapped - is not a misnomer after all, you truly do want to help people legally kidnap children.

Grandmother wants to STEAL a 10 week old baby from the mother

My son is ther father of a 10 week old baby girl. We filed a petition to establish paternity . She had until 2/23 to respond to the papers served to her on 1/29. On 3/9 our attorney filed for a default hearing. On 3/9 their attorney filed a response of denial. After speaking the attorneys agreed that both parties should get together and resolve this out of court. My son is asking for standard Texas visitation with overnight visits. He still lives at home while attending technical college and would not even be alone with the child. The mother also lives at home with her mother, her two brothers, her gransparents and three cousins. Baby makes 10 in the house but I have been told that dosen't matter. The baby sleeps in a crib in the living room. This is also the room the mother and her mother sleep in in the same bed. I worry about her crib being under a window. We have a much safter environment for her but do not want to take her away from her mom. WE just want the time he deserves. The meeting that was going to take place this week never happened. Their attorney never retunred the calls from ours.My son is sending child support weekly and has not seen his daughter since she was 12 days old and that visit was for about 5 minutes tunil the mother told he he had no rights to the baby. Our attorney says next step if they will not talk is to file for a temp order. That could take up to 20 days. My son is distraught about missing so much of his daughters early life. WE don't even know if she is growing okay. Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas that could help us?

I have only one suggestion for you Grandma from HELL.....GET OUT OF YOUR SON'S LIFE!!!!! You had your time at being a mother, leave being a mother to (drumroll folks) THE MOTHER!!!!

Judge using his power on the bench incorrectly?

[2] Even for law-related organizations, a judge should consider whether the membership and purposes of the organization, or the nature of the judge’s participation in or association with the organization, would conflict with the judge’s obligation to refrain from activities that reflect adversely upon a judge’s independence, integrity, and impartiality.

RULE 1.2: Promoting Confidence in the Judiciary

A judge shall act at all times in a manner that promotes public confidence in the independence,* integrity,* and impartiality* of the judiciary, and shall avoid impropriety and the appearance of impropriety.

Now how is it possible for a judge to perform fully under these rules of ethics when they give father's rights speeches to auditoriums filled with men. This same judge refuses (or maybe just hasn't done so yet) to give these same speeches to mothers, instead this judge routinely removes children more and more from the mothers lives, handing over more and more control to - you guessed it - the controlling and abusive ex-husbands.

Now the abused mom who is directly under the auspices of this judge knows who she is and I apologize for how long it took to post this. I sincerely hope that this judge will be removed from her case soon and her parenting time with her chidlren will be restored in an unsupervised manner.

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH PEOPLE - GET WITH THE GAME!!!!!