Dad who beats mom will not beat children?

An alienator may assume that if a parent had been physically abusive with him or her, it follows that the parent will assault the child. This assumption is not always true.

I guess Stuart does not read reports by the American Psychological Association, specifically the report entitled Violence in the Family: Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family written in 1996 which states:

•40 to 60 percent of men who abuse their wife or girlfriend also abuse their children

I don't know about Stuart, but I do not think I would be risking any child with 40-60% odds. Would you?

Don't these men understand that you can't abuse a woman without abusing her children?

Don't these men understand that you can't abuse a woman without abusing her children?

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Twitter is fun :-)

Wow Twitter is so fun. I never knew people could be so hate-filled on there. Like this guy:

jedhreskowhy are you following me on Twitter? to gather info? Fuck you. Glenn is a good guy. You are building hate that will backfire politically

I think I will be posting many more hate filled comments from twitter!!!

Oh nearly forgot to answer his question. I am following anyone who has information on Family Law, the Family Law Court system and anybody who follows those people. So sorry you can delete me from following but I can still read your drivel (or non-drivel, depending on who you are) and analyze said postings for disbursement here.

New look to follow

I am bored with my old look and decided I needed a look more fitting. I have fiddled around in paintshop and came up with this look. It might be temporary, or it might be permanent. Also be on the lookout for a new poll. It will start July 1 and run until July 31. I plan to publish the results so we need survey takers. I am also going to be creating a survey dealing with domestic violence and the effects on you and your children. So be looking for that one too.

My daily amusements (yes that is plural - there is more than one)

This will be a short post :-) You my gentle readers must be wondering - Petunia is amused? Why, we never knew pigs could be amused.... Before I go further, I must make sure that I utilize correct spelling and my use of the "English alphabet" is also correct. You see in my haste I hav made many spelling errors and typos or so it has been called to my attention as such. I rightly don't care one way or the other if my spelling is right. I manage to get my point across well enough to ensure that father's rights nutjobs visit my website daily (and you "men" - cough snort gag puke - know who you are) understand what I am typing. This is just another way to minimize women using my website to do so.

With that out of the way...now on to Petunia's amusements :-) Attila, poor poor Attila....He certainly has it bad for me. He visits here several times a day. His searches for himself nearly topped the list of search terms (the TWAT Bob hero is now higher), and he certainly is paranoidal about the BADASS blogger team. And yes Attila, it is a TEAM of bloggers. TEAM as in moe than one person. And we number more two or three also. We have satirical blogs, in your face blogs, factual blogs, and editorial blogs. We are everywhere. In fact look in the face of the next woman you see walking down the street. Think she is not a BADASS? Think again....she could very well be one of us. She could be one of our many visitors. Or she just might be a woman who has no idea BADASS even exists... You will never know. But I have you pondering that situation, don't I?

Get ready Fellow BADASSes!!!!

Attila, as I promised Quentin0352, I will post on YOU later. Now when that later will be, only time will tell....

And hello Quentin0352....I should send Attila to your posts. He is so set on showing how awful my usage of the "English alphabet" is, I am sure he would be just as distraught with your spelling errors and typos. Probably not, but one can hope can't they?

Now I must know (not that you will tell me) why you continue to lie to your fellow "men" (cough snort gag puke) on Stand Your Ground? You made one post on my blog. Not that I care, I generally tire easily of you MRA types. But why lie? I HAVE done research on your issues. All in good time, Quentie, all in good time....

So there you have it my faithful followers. Daily amusement of Petunia......

Sentencing discounts for women?

There are several studies that have found that, when men and women with equal criminal histories are charged with the same crime, men get the more severe sentence. One such study found that sex played the greatest role in sentencing disparities - even greater than race. That's the female sentencing discount.

This the latest from the MRA's... So Petunia has done her own research on this issue. She came up with some rather interesting tidbits to share.

http://fcx.sagepub.com/cgi/content/abstract/4/2/170

Gendered Justice
Domestic Homicide and the Death Penalty
Jill Theresa Messing
School of Social Work, Arizona State University, Phoenix, Jill.Messing@asu.edu

John W. Heeren

Department of Sociology, California State University, San Bernardino, jheeren@csusb.edu

This research examines a newspaper sample of men and women who killed multiple people in a single domestic altercation during the years 1993 to 2002. As all these perpetrators of multiple domestic homicide are eligible to be capitally tried, differences in capital sentencing are examined using bivariate statistics and descriptive, case-oriented analyses. Women who kill their children using a knife or firearm are disproportionately sentenced to death, whereas men who kill in the context of a separation are granted leniency in regard to the death penalty. The interaction between the gender of the offender and the crime committed is discussed.

Or how about this one:

http://www.nola.com/news/t-p/otheropinions/index.ssf?/base/news-0/1179120053203970.xml&coll=1

Going easy on men who kill partners
Monday, May 14, 2007 Tania Tetlow

Everette Simpson married three times, and three times he murdered his wife. Simpson stabbed his first wife 16 times with a butcher knife and then served nine years in prison. He stabbed his second wife with a hatchet, was allowed to plead guilty to manslaughter and served 11 years before being paroled. Last month in Slidell, Simpson beat his third wife and her brother to death and then set the house on fire to conceal the murders. He died in the fire, so at least he won't be released and marry again.

Sheriff Jack Strain asked how a "monster" like this could have been free to kill again. The answer is simple -- the national average sentence for men who kill their female partners is two to six years in prison. Criminal justice systems and juries do not, on average, treat the murder of women by their husbands terribly seriously.

In contrast, women who kill their male partners are sentenced to an average of 15 years, three times as much as male defendants, despite the fact that many of these women killed in self-defense.

Women in abusive relationships find themselves trapped. They know that the system will not, or sometimes cannot, protect them from husbands who promise to track them down and kill them. Ashley Ruffins was stabbed to death last year after the police in both Orleans and Jefferson parishes failed to answer her repeated begging to enforce a protective order. Even when the police respond immediately, as they did in Mandeville last month, they could not protect Adrienne McGee from being shot down in the middle of the street in broad daylight.

But if these women try to save their own lives, fight back and end up killing their batterers, they often face life sentences in prison. Their children are effectively orphaned. Three recent New Orleans trials, all held in the same month, illustrate this fact:...

I also found numerous "men's websites" claiming women receive a sentencing discount versus men. I guess we are back at "he said, she said" again. Sadly the only winner in that scenario in today's world is the one with the money. So I guess that would be the man.....

Offended_dad - you mean you will act normal and continue your hatred?

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Offended_Dad Says:

June 26th, 2009 at 3:01 pm
Not only should she avoid punishment for murder, but she should be getting stimulus money as well!

I'm glad she's out - let's make a spectacle of it, "Onion"-style. Hell, I'll bet if we started a campaign promoting it (women have no responsibility when they murder), we can demand it as necessary to teh patriarchy, and that women *should* be treated like retards and imbecilles by the court system. Hopefully, in some perverse way, because MRA's are promoting some actual sexism, they'll campaign for some actual equality.

So what will be different OD? You MRA's already believe this and say this every chance you get, so what will be different? Oh I get it, you will now do it in complete mainstream media...... I see how it is. Well how 'bout I start? You moniker is Offended_Dad or OD for short? How about I start calling you OBSCENE_DAD?

Oh but I digress, that is not allowed becuase that is man-hate..... Woman-hate on the other hand is completely acceptable.

Men only and women only colleges

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john Says:

June 24th, 2009 at 7:20 pm
men are at the back of the bus......hey why do women have 30 women only colleges and men have 3...is that fair?

How quickly john forgets that only a few short decades ago, all colleges were men only and women were NOT allowed to attend, even if they paid up completely.

Truth is shown in their own words (or if you have money and deny that money to your ex-wife you can torture her)

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John Boy Says:

June 24th, 2009 at 7:46 pm
I am lucky in that I had enough money during both of my daughter's custody evaluations that I could afford to pick an evaluator. As was explained to me by both of the attorneys I hired that if my ex-wife and I could not agree to an evaluator or did not have the scratch to get a good one that we would be subject to the luck of the draw.

In my situation, my wife was / and again is accusing me of false DV. The last thing I wanted was a quack or closet feminist who would automatically assume that I must be either guilty or worse, a man (unfortunately that is the same to some people). During all three legal bouts I have had, we always look for the most competent and respected evaluators or MFT types for a couple of reasons. First, we want someone who has seen enough cases to see through the ruse. Second, we want someone whos opinion will carry alot of weight in front of a judge.

The first custody evaluation when badly for my ex-wife and so I got to keep custody. Unfortunately, that did not seem to stop her. Robert, you are right to say that these people are surrogate parrents. God help you if you get a lousy one.

You see where John Boy went into this prepared. His lawyer used the tricks of the court whores and told John Boy to hire a GAL/Evaluator and of course I am sure that good lawyer that he was, he had many father friendly evaluators lined up with their hands out. MONEY, MONEY, MONEY!!!! Show me the money. John Boy did and was able to get out of an abuse allegation.

Children do not sue - only adults do on their behalf?

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Attila L. Vinczer Says:

June 26th, 2009 at 9:37 am
A 12 year old girl does not sue, an adult does in their name. In divorce adults, and it seem women are the primary culprits, will stoop to any level and utilize any angle in court and otherwise to achieve their selfish objectives. This was true with the Canadian father who was sued in Quebec and this one in this case. It is women driving this stupidity that are hurting children and others, but that means little to some incredulously vindictive women with spite as potent as cyanide! Very dangerous! Very poisonous!

Attila

Attila, Attila, Attila - how misinformed you are.... Children can and do sue for many things. Do you recall one huge example of this is the child in Florida who sued both of his birth parents for divorce. Daddy realized this was the best thing for child after years of fighting over this issue, helping bio-mom continue this on. Even after bio-dad's rights were termintaed, he continued to help bio-mom. This was a child abused by both bio-mom and bio-dad. Child had been in foster care for many years and all he wanted was a chance to live as the legal natural child of his foster parents. He was the one to sue, the foster parents were not.

So yes children can and do sue, Attila.

Thanks again for speaking about something which you obviously know very little, so I can again feature you here, and so you can flock to my site even more. I sure do enjopy seeing you pop up on my visitor list :-)