Complaining about cartoons and commercials?!?!?!?!?

Janet Fellows Says:

October 12th, 2009 at 4:11 pm
And for those reading this cartoon who will say "It's only a joke". Reverse the genders and then see what you say , or see what your friends would say, especially if you put the 'idiot' in a skimpy bikini.

ClarenceOveur Says:

October 12th, 2009 at 7:58 pm
Speaking of women in politics. One of our California Senators (Barbara Botoxer) is up for re-election and may be running against Carly Fiorina. Senator Botoxer originally campagined on the fact that she was a woman ("It's About Time!"), and many women I know voted (and continue to vote) for her "because she's a woman". I hope Ms. Fiorina runs so that I may vote for her and, when asked why, respond "Because she's younger, blonder, and prettier!"

gwallan Says:

October 13th, 2009 at 12:54 am
Woman kicks man in crotch to sell insurance.

Get over it. It's just a joke.

Woman belts bloke over head with tyre iron.

Get over it. It's just a joke.

Woman rapes boy.

Get over it. It's just a harmless joke.

No worries guys. It's all just a big joke.

And what are they upset about? This cartoon which was published on September 30, 2009:



Shall we discuss the blond female jokes and the blond women jokes? How about the pregnant barefoot mom? How about we mention the fact that one of your own says he would vote for one woman in a race between two women, simply because one is younger, BLONDER, and prettier? The list can go on here fellows. Playing the "oh they are being mean to us cause we are men" card is getting slightly old.......

My daily amusements (yes that is plural - there is more than one)

This will be a short post :-) You my gentle readers must be wondering - Petunia is amused? Why, we never knew pigs could be amused.... Before I go further, I must make sure that I utilize correct spelling and my use of the "English alphabet" is also correct. You see in my haste I hav made many spelling errors and typos or so it has been called to my attention as such. I rightly don't care one way or the other if my spelling is right. I manage to get my point across well enough to ensure that father's rights nutjobs visit my website daily (and you "men" - cough snort gag puke - know who you are) understand what I am typing. This is just another way to minimize women using my website to do so.

With that out of the way...now on to Petunia's amusements :-) Attila, poor poor Attila....He certainly has it bad for me. He visits here several times a day. His searches for himself nearly topped the list of search terms (the TWAT Bob hero is now higher), and he certainly is paranoidal about the BADASS blogger team. And yes Attila, it is a TEAM of bloggers. TEAM as in moe than one person. And we number more two or three also. We have satirical blogs, in your face blogs, factual blogs, and editorial blogs. We are everywhere. In fact look in the face of the next woman you see walking down the street. Think she is not a BADASS? Think again....she could very well be one of us. She could be one of our many visitors. Or she just might be a woman who has no idea BADASS even exists... You will never know. But I have you pondering that situation, don't I?

Get ready Fellow BADASSes!!!!

Attila, as I promised Quentin0352, I will post on YOU later. Now when that later will be, only time will tell....

And hello Quentin0352....I should send Attila to your posts. He is so set on showing how awful my usage of the "English alphabet" is, I am sure he would be just as distraught with your spelling errors and typos. Probably not, but one can hope can't they?

Now I must know (not that you will tell me) why you continue to lie to your fellow "men" (cough snort gag puke) on Stand Your Ground? You made one post on my blog. Not that I care, I generally tire easily of you MRA types. But why lie? I HAVE done research on your issues. All in good time, Quentie, all in good time....

So there you have it my faithful followers. Daily amusement of Petunia......

Randi James Guest Post: Between a Rock and a Hard Place: The System Sends Mixed Messages to Abuse Victims

Between a Rock and a Hard Place: The System Sends Mixed Messages to Abuse Victims

Do you stay, or do you leave?

If you haven't been a victim of abuse, or a victim of the legal system, you may not be able to understand why this is even posed as a question.

Of course you should leave!

I mean, who deserves to get beat up and/or sexually assaulted in their own home...regularly...or even occasionally. Even as careful as you could try to be to make sure everything is perfect, so as not to anger your abuser, SOMETHING always sets him off...sooner or later. He is a time bomb. You are his target.

What does it mean to be a target?

When you are a target, all of your abuser's anger is directed toward you, specifically. Typically, he doesn't pull the same shit towards those who he considers his equals, or more powerful than he. This is about power. He needs you like capitalism needs slaves. He uses you so that he can feel better about his shortcomings. He doesn't know how to feel good without you.

But he is a good father. He doesn't beat the kids.

You're right. Good fathers don't beat their kids...But nor do they beat up on women to whom they are temporarily, or permanently committed. Getting beat in front of your children doesn't exactly send the kids a good message. In fact, they are put in limbo because your kids will either

A) Side with your abuser because he is more powerful and gets what he wants, or
B) Side with you in attempt to protect you...But let me break that down a little more
1) In protecting you, your children become targets, and the moment will come when they take blows for you
2) In choosing to side with you or not, your children will mimic the behaviors they have seen and normalize them.

Is this what you want?

I hope not because if some outsider reports what is going on in your household, CPS will come knocking and your kids may be gone before you ever get a chance to ask questions. You will be charged with neglect, endangering your children, or failure to protect.

Why?

Because everyone on the outside thinks you should have just left. You are the mother. If you didn't leave, you must be an accessory to the abuse.

What mother allows her children to get abused?

And what mother lets her children watch as she gets abused?

You must be a bad mother. You don't deserve to have children. If you're lucky, maybe your relatives will do you a favor and step in and raise your children for you. If not, foster care will do a great job...because it is indeed a job when they are getting paid.

Maybe you have a chance though, if you would just leave.

That seems like the best idea. Leave.

Wait!

Are you going to tell your abuser in advance, or are you going to sneak out in the middle of the night?

Remember, he needs you...is he going to agree to all of this?

Who the fuck do you think you are leaving him, and taking his children?

He owns you. He's paying the bills. He's the reason you can stay home and take care of his children.

If you go, you have reason to be fearful. Get a lawyer and a restraining order. But, back up a little. The lawyer says, if you take out a restraining order, in the near future, the judge in family court could use it against you. He (the judge and your abuser) may say this was part of your vindictive scheme to get the kids and the money and the house and the car. Restraining orders don't prevent you from being harmed though anyway, because you still have to rely on law enforcement to act.

Get the restraining order anyway.

You'll have record of what you tried to do, in case the news opts to report it upon your "tragic" death. But you can't put the kids on the restraining order...Silly woman! You know fathers have rights!

In fact they have so many rights that if your abuser happens to get locked up, Responsible Fatherhood money will ensure that he has the means to transition back into his caretaking, father-role (don't roll your eyes, we know you were doing the caretaking, but you're not important and this is politics).

Go ahead and report the entire history of abuse.

You do have pictures, right? You mean to tell me in all these years that you have been getting assaulted, you weren't taking pictures of your injuries and saving them in a secret location?

Did you at least tell the doctor? Is there anything in your medical record?

Where are your vaginal tears, bruises, scars?

In talking to police without evidence (or with it), your case will seem suspicious. It will be your word, against your abuser's. Your local DA will be hesitant to take the case...well, hesitant is an overstatement because he may not even acknowledge you. DA's only take cases they can win. DA's aren't interested in intrafamilial abuse reports in the midst of divorce...

You have bad timing. You should have reported this before you were trying to separate. Oh, whoops, I forgot, they would have charged you, too!

Maybe you can work things out peacefully without involving the court.

When was the last time you worked things out "peacefully" with an abuser?

In good conscience, you allow your abuser to continue to have a relationship with the children he didn't abuse, well, directly abuse (or at least you think so). I don't know if you are really doing him a favor, or rather doing as the court would order you to do so, because you do know that the court will order you to do it, right (ask Ms. Leichtenberg and also ask the Paul family...family, because Monica Paul happens to be deceased)? Father's rights.

I know, I know. Yes, you have been abused, but now, yes, yes, you will be court ordered to continue to have a relationship with your abuser because kids deserve both parents. If you try to resist, they will call in the child custody evaluators and Guardians ad Litem and they will say things you would never imagine...because you ARE crazy, aren't you?

What mother would keep a father away from his children?

You know your abuser best

You know that when he makes threats, he can carry them through. You know if you don't meet his demands, you and your children will suffer. But if you try to protect yourself and the children, you risk losing custody to your abuser. And why would you want to put your kids in that situation? They don't want to live with him and if they do live with him, you already know how their lives will turn out. They will be like lost souls.

Sacrifice yourself...like Jesus Christ. Maybe you were put on earth to suffer for the sins of others.

You were supposed to be omniscient--to know that this man you chose would end up being an abuser.

You were supposed to be omnipresent--to know that this man would abuse your children while you were away at work, or school, or while he was away with the kids.

You were supposed to be omnipotent--to protect yourself and your children and to be able to hide and simultaneously remain visible, and to be able to leave your abuser, but let him remain in your life.

How do you want to die?

What do you want the news to say about you when you are murdered?

That you were nice? No, they won't say that! The neighbors and other members of the community will say how nice your abuser was. He was a family man. He played with the kids in the yard.

Everyone will be so shocked and sad that this happened. No one knew that you and your children were getting your asses kicked on a regular.

Your family may've thought you were crazy, or a bad mom, so they may've distanced themselves from you a long time ago. In fact, they may have ADORED your abuser.

Your children's friends will not come forward. They are children--either they won't tell anyway, or their parents won't let them.

You know who else might know? The teachers. But teachers are so busy disciplining and teaching to the test...and besides, it's too late for them to come forward now.

You see what you get for pretending and ignoring and trying to keep the family together? No credit.

Maybe the media will pull your court record and note that you tried to get a restraining order, but you didn't show up. More than likely, they will relay gossip about how you were having an affair and how you were always provoking your abuser. Because violence is mutual. Girls hit, too.

Didn't you know in advance that he was easily provoked? You should have checked his criminal record, or asked his ex.

Maybe your children will die, too. But everyone will talk about how tragic it was and how innocent they are. They, not you, because you had to have done something to make a nice guy want to kill you.

Or maybe you wanted to be killed, because who stays with an abuser anyway?

Hip Hip Hooray for Joshua Cartwright

Time to stand up and cheer:
Hip Hip Hooray!
Hip Hip Hooray!
Hip Hip Hooray for Joshua Cartwright!

You must be wondering - what in the world? Has Petunia lost her mind? Who is this "Joshua Cartwright? And why is she cheering him on?

Gentle Readers, it is not Petunia who cheers on the women haters of today. It is the lunacy of the MRA/FR movement who does so.

Read about Cartwright here:

Shooting deaths: 'None of it makes sense'

The events that led to the shooting deaths of two Okaloosa County sheriff's deputies Saturday began in a small top-floor apartment in Fort Walton Beach - with an argument over a tube of Clearasil.

Apparently this had much more to do with an an insane person than a "tube of Clearasil", however.

Now you understand why this is on here but who in god's name would be cheering on a man such as this you may ask?

For his courage, valor, and gun control in the face of violent criminal assault by the enemies of men, Mr. Joshua Cartwright is hereby awarded the coveted Golden Bull Award.

WARNING! MRA WEBSITE!!!!
The World According To Bob

In the future, Petunia will refer to comments from Bob and his site as TWAT Bob comments, so the reader can choose to visiti or not to visit. Keep in mind Petunia only posts what is out there, she never makes anything up. Please use caution when visiting these sites.

Petunia cannot even fathom the rantings of this man who claims to be an MRA/FR enough to even begin writing an opinion. I mean - where would she start? So gentle readers - I leave this one to you. Please comment and comment heavily!!!

If all else fails resort to blackmail

Brian Says:

February 27th, 2009 at 2:46 pm
The best thing I ever did was get a vasectomy. I make six figures a year. It’s unbelevable how pissed off women get when they discover they can’t “forget” their birth control and get a paycheck out of me. I learned the hard way. I was married young, had a baby with my ex and divorced when she started running around. I was lucky since we had joint custody; only because I had a private detective follow her and take pictures going into motels with her various boyfriends. She was gearing up to rape me financially until I showed her the pictures and threatened to give copies to all of her family and friends. All of a sudden she wanted me back.

She wanted you back because she could not trust you - after all who could trust someone who would resort to blackmail. If you are seperated she has the right to live her life. I am sure you were not leading the life of a priest. Again more goose gander stuff goin' on here folks.

And may I add, I will NEVER run out of material at this rate. I am so backlogged it is unreal. I could make this a full time job and still never get caught up on the blatant mysogyny of these men.

Blogging and blogging

I have been lurking and reading, reading and lurking. I now have a slew of posts ready for you my gentle reader (more in fact than I can finish and publish in a year - and then I will be given new material). As I sit and read some of the unbelievable comments on Sucks' site, I wonder if these men truly believe this. Then I look back at my marriage from hell, and the things my ex-husband said, and I sigh and think - yep they truly believe this. What sort of monster would believe these things? I am not a psychologist or a psychiatrist so I will leave the diagnosis to the professionals. My only job here is to show these MRA/FR types in their true color. Show what disgusting pigs they really are. With that said, prepare to be inundated. These guys (and gals) just do not know how to shut the hell up.